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by Jason Nemrow last modified 2018-03-29 15:42

I will take skeptics to task a few times in this booklet. I personally know that large doses of skepticism can be harmful because I have often thought in the past, like a lot of people, that the way of the skeptic was the "intelligent" choice. What I have found instead is that such a course keeps a person small and closed off from a world of interesting possibilities, relationships, and experience. The Psychic Proximity Principle is all about staying open to such things and daring to go where your heart and inspiration leads.

Trust your Past

It is very fashionable to jettison the "outdated" ideas and attitudes as irrelevant, but I would counsel you against throwing away the past. "Old-fashioned" wisdom from parents and grandparents have some very compelling aspects to them, including the virtue of being tried-and-tested. Most successful people today learned and used principles they picked up from past successful people, even if everyone thinks they are new and "innovative". Very few things are really new.

Probably more so than you would like to admit, you are a product of your parents and the influential people of a generation or two behind you. They shaped your attitudes, they set you on the path that you likely still follow, and whatever virtues you have picked up can find their roots in these progenitors. Even if your past is littered with broken relationships and poor examples, it is still your past and a large portion of what you are and the good person you can become was initially shaped by those who birthed and raised you. Don't forget to honor them, or better yet, bring them honor through your actions.

Truth be told, the Psychic Proximity Principle is not a new thing that I thought up. It is an expression of principles that are much older than I am. It is the culmination of many things I learned from my parents, various mentors and teachers, and the writings of people that I respect. These didn't develop in complete isolation because nothing does.

Your past got you to where you are. Honor your past by building on it.

Nature and Nurture

In the field of human development, especially child development, there is a constant struggle between two sorts of theorists: those who think the person you become is primarily a matter of genetics (nature) and those who think we are basically a product of our environment (nurture). The safe and easy answer is to say we are affected by both in a "middle of the road" sort of way. If you study a little deeper, you do see both in operation and how the interplay between nature and nurture works.

When I think about nature, it is about the parents and grandparents I have been writing about. Love them or hate them, that influence is there and the observant person sees that influence surfacing all the time. You can save a lot of pain and heartache by acknowledging this fact and adding their longer experience to your own. There is little use wasting time and effort in "reinventing the wheel" or "burning your hand on a stove" if you can instead listen to and trust the counsel of those who have traveled ahead of you. For instance, I don't have to go to jail to know it is an unpleasant place: I can take the word of others for it and save myself a lot of pain. Often, parents and other experienced people know you better than you know yourself and are willing and even hungry to share their knowledge with you. Listen to them.

People who think more of the environment we are raised in often do so because it has affected them personally, profoundly, and certainly more visibly, often for the worse. Many "nurture" adherents also consider themselves and others as "victims" of environments that felt beyond their control. I don't wish to demean such experiences - bad environments are very real and can be very damaging. My own background had some bad aspects to it and I am sure there are "scars" from it. As I see it, the problem comes from dwelling far longer than is useful on environmental factors, as a "nurture" aficionado is apt to do, giving it far more "credit" than it is due.

Honestly, I find it easier to transcend environments than genetics, so I put more stock in the latter. If you come from a bad environment, it can be overcome with effort. One's genetics usually have to just be accepted and dealt with - one can't "will away" a genuine disability, for example.

Trust your Present

One thing can be said for a person who puts great weight on environment and "nurture", they easily blame the past for their present, project it into the future, and can fall readily into rationalizations for why they can't overcome and must stay in squallor forever. What a terrible place to put a person, especially if it is yourself!

The Psychic Proximity Principle is inherently based on living in the moment and putting faith in a brighter future. It has you acting on impressions right now that you trust will have positive repercussions as you move ahead. Steve Jobs could have wallowed in his inability to continue in an expensive college and his humble working-class background, instead he made choices based on where his heart seemed to lead him. That is living in the present and trusting that this is a good thing to do.

"Now" is a good place to start. Don't bury yourself in "if onlys" and debilitating yesterdays.

Trust your Future

Steve Jobs describes his life experience as "connecting the dots" in his speech.

"...you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life."

One can look behind and see the trail of choices and their consequences, but that doesn't mean there is some searchlight switched on that lets you see the path ahead. There is only the evidence behind you that some positive force has led you previously. There are a lot of variables at play: your willingness to follow impressions, your readiness to see the process happening in retrospect, your recognition of some higher power at work, etc. This booklet is meant to help you see what is happening and trust that it will continue to happen into the future.

I have heard it described as walking into the darkness, or at least what appears to be impossible to see from our present vantage point. You exercise faith in what you feel in your heart and move ahead, not really knowing what's out there, and you discover that what seemed dark before is actually light enough to allow you to take another step onward. That is moving forward with trust that whatever is leading you will not fail you. That is probably the most hopeful thing Steve Jobs said in his speech: "This approach has never let me down..."

You can base your future plans on television business projections, the stock picks of rich people, or any number of methods. Although some knowledge on these subjects can be helpful, Steve and I would recommend that you invest yourself more toward following your heart and moving forward based on intuition.


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